One way to do the Presencing Process

Here’s one way to do it!

Presencing invites us to share our inner experience, whatever it is, right now in the moment with another.

It starts with “What are you experiencing now?”


Taking turns (some details are below)

It can be scary because there’s a vulnerability in the moment and there’s nowhere to hide. It can be raw or uncomfortable to let another hear and see what we’re experiencing.

If we’re willing to risk that it usually ends up being fun, like riding rapids where we know we won’t be really hurt. We”re in it together!!  We risk being real and uncontrolled. This is a blessing, even if we fall down sometimes. 

Of course it’s often different but it often has a playful quality too. Here are my “playful Presencing guidelines.”

I learned it from my friend Aryae Katchen who learned it from Patricia Albere who I think learned it from A.H. Almaas, a contemporary Sufi teacher. Patricia calls it the MAP process – Mutual Awakening Process. I give thanks to all. I don’t know where it originated. It can show a new way of showing up in the world – beyond the isolating personal performance our conditioning invites us into.

At it’s most basic, here’s how I do it at present (I’m planning a major immersion in this with friends from all over.)

There are three parts: .

1. Person A asks person B, “what are you experiencing now?”or “What is arising in you now?” and is then simply silently present and welcoming. Make it friendly. The idea is to be as close to now as can be, not so much a story about this morning or what you would be doing if you weren’t doing this. Reverse roles.

2. Person A asks another question of person B for a timed period (usually longer than the first. Six minutes? Eight? “So what wants to happen in your inner life right now?” Or “What are you working on in your inner life right now?” Again be as current as you can.
The speaker assigns a role to the listener: Just listen, or indicate you have a thought to contribute. The speaker can OK the thought or not.

3.)  What are we experiencing now? The two share what they’re noticing in the shared space. Just chatting, no turns here. What’s interesting about what happened?

Sound like fun? Sound scary and want to do it anyway?

One wonderful teaching in this process is that both parties do it equally so there’s no top dog and bottom dog, no coach and client, no Mr. Natural and Flakey Foont – just two humans having a human experience in the moment.

Get in touch if you’d like to give it a whirl!

… but wait, there’s more, so much more . . .

Doing this practice with others has an uncanny knack of showing overlap and connection between the players . . . think a campfire where a stranger becomes a friend. It forms a brotherhood of risk taking explorers of the present moment. String the moments together and you start to see you’re on a new kind of pilgrimage.

The rest is in the doing . . .